My Personal Finance Story Part 1:

I thought this would be a good time to let you know a little bit more about me and my financial history/story.

I would love to say that I never made a money mistake, but of course that isn’t true. But, I’m getting ahead of myself.

Have you ever made a money mistake? I’m sure you have. I’ve read of others’ money mistakes, and how they overcame them. I’ve enjoyed reading the stories about how they destroyed their massive debts, or been able to save so much money that they can retire early. Like really early – like 33 years old! Crazy right?

Well, I’m not any of those people, which is good. Otherwise you would be reading the same thing here as you could at their blogs. My story is different, and yet it’s similar to many. We were normal.

Just a warning – this turned into a two-part story, but you won’t have to wait long for part two . . .

The Early Years (Yrs 1-4)
early years

Most people seem to make their money mistakes early on in life, and my wife and I were no exception. Combined, we had $16,000 in student loan debt, which is piddling compared to some fantastical stories and even the national average ($34k). But it was our debt and our mess.

Together it took us 2 years to pay off this debt. One year for my student loan debt – before we were married. And one more year after we were married to knock out hers.

While we both had relatively good jobs – I’m a mechanical engineer and she’s a registered nurse – we didn’t take advantage of the financial freedom that we had. Mainly because we didn’t know we had it. Is that you? Do actually have more than you realize. If only I knew then what I know now.

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First Major Money Mistake

During this year (our first year of marriage) we made our first money mistake. I’m sure you could have guessed that we purchased a brand new car. It was only the second car I had ever owned, and it seemed like a good decision at the time. We cheerfully took on a $400/month car payment and $16,000 in car debt.

Because of our income, not because of our financial acumen, we were able to pay it off in two years. I don’t think this affected us financially as much as it could have. Because we actually still own this car – over 10 years later. But we were definitely out-earning our stupidity.

Not that I would ever recommend a new car purchase, but if you were to buy new, you should plan to keep the car as long as possible. The longer the better. Every year longer you can keep that car is another year you can spread out the initial cost of the car.

The “Life is Easy” Years (Yrs 5-8)

Second Major Money Mistake

So if you’re keeping track, we paid off $32000 in debt over our first 3-4 years of marriage – not too bad, right? I think we were pretty normal, maybe even better than normal. It was time for the next step in life mistake. We had to have a house. It didn’t help that we were expecting our first child, and the downstairs neighbors weren’t exactly child friendly. The pressure to buy was enormous – at least in our minds.

Looking back, we should have stayed put for another year, but hindsight is always 20/20 right?

So we saved up a huge down payment on a great house and bought at a great time. Just kidding. That’s not how it went down. It would have been better if we had waited, but that’s how you learn I guess.

What actually happened?

We saved up a little more than 5% for a nice little house in a quiet neighborhood. We were so anxious to purchase that we couldn’t wait to get out of our apartment. Our first son was born in March of that year, and we closed on that house in May of . . . 2008. Yup, right before the bottom fell out of the housing market.

Several things happened as a result of that money mistake of a house purchase in 2008.

  1. We probably paid more than we should have, but we were impatient.
  2. My wife and I took advantage of the first-time home-buyers loan ($7500 to be re-paid through taxes over the next 15 yrs).
  3. We also had to apply for closing cost assistance from the New York State Mortgage Agency – which came with its own stipulations.

If we had waited only a year to buy, we would have had the benefit of several things. I know we can’t go back, but I can admonish others to approach big money decisions carefully.

  1. We could have purchased the same house for less – assuming it was still on the market.
  2. We could have had a first-time home-buyers credit ($8000 free and clear – Not a loan)
  3. The extra time would have allowed us to save up more than a 5% down-payment.

Time Flies when Things are Going Well
money mistake - first house

Even though my wife cut back her hours drastically to take care of our little boy. My job was stable, and my income was increasing. We were able to cash-flow many home improvements. We saved a lot of money by doing most of the work ourselves. At least that was what I always told myself. As I was mechanically inclined, this turned into a great hobby – fixing up our house.

During this time we had another little boy. The only new debt we acquired was for another vehicle. Paying with cash would have been wiser, but at least it wasn’t a new car. We had learned part of the lesson. We were able to pay off this debt in under 2 years. By the way, we still have this vehicle too.


We stayed in this house for 6 years. Our savings account was relatively healthy (We had 3 months or so of expenses), and the only debt we had was our mortgage. I thought we were in a great place financially.

Perhaps we were, nothing difficult had happened. We hadn’t made a crippling money mistake. We spent the money we had – we were living within our means. That’s the advice that all personal finance experts spout (myself included). But that doesn’t set you up for success financially. If you always spend everything you make, at the end of the day you’ll have nothing left. That was a great description of “us”.

We vacationed, and went out to eat, bought “stuff”, and . . . lived. Because that was what we wanted.

But that was all about to change.

You guessed it – You’ll have to come back for part two . . . to make sure you don’t miss part two why not subscribe to my blog? You’ll get each new post delivered directly to your e-mail.

This post is part of blog chain about some different financial mistakes and the lessons learned. If you’re interested, check out some of these other great articles about financial mistakes.

ThinkSaveRetire – Don’t brag about success; tell me your failures

A Chronicle of a Father with Cents – My financial mistakes

A Journey to FI – My financial mistakes

OthalaFehu – Budget Bungles, Money Muddles, and Fiscal Flubs

Turning Point Money – My Financial Mistakes

Femme Cents – 7 Lessons I Learned from my Biggest Financial Mistake

Jumpstart From Scratch – Recent financial blunder

Gen Y Money – Investing mistakes in my 20s

Atypical Life – Five super lame blunders from my life

The Frugal Gene – Top 5 sorry ass mistakes made in my 20s

99 to 1 percent – 6 financial mistakes and 15 lessons learned

Winning Personal Finance – My 7 most regrettable financial decisions

Chief Mom Officer – Overdrawn checking account!

Foreign Born MD – Biggest mistake: Over a million dollars worth

Kiwi And Keweenaw – Is An Emergency Fund Necessary with a High Savings Rate

The Cash Dad – My “Normal” Story is Filled with Money Mistakes!



Chris is the original Cash Dad. He's a father of 3 and a mechanical engineer by trade.


    • Chris Reply

      Haha, We did!! And along with other things, that made for some tough times.
      Thanks for the comment.

    • Chris Reply

      Right?!!! When you’re young, and dumb, and wanting a house . . .
      Thanks for stopping by. ?

  1. We all make mistakes. I’m still making them tbh. But I think identifying them and trying not to repeat the same mistakes is the important thing.

    • Chris Reply

      I totally agree, Melanie. We should all be growing and learning from our mistakes. ?

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